Hello! I don't know where to turn. My wife suffers from dermatillomania, and I am NOT a good support. In fact, I am an enabler. I fall into the trap of believing that I am helping by letting her do it or even using tweezers. I have tried even keeping the tools under lock and key, but I always somehow convince myself that it's ok. That if she could get this "one thing" out, it will all be over and she'll heal up and everything will be ok. That just isn't realistic, and I want to be a better support and actually take action. When she's picking, I feel helpless and I can't seem to make myself do anything but panic and cry. Afterwords, every time, she tells me that I did nothing to help her and that I am making it worse. Bottom line is that she needs someone who can take action instead of panicking. What do I do? Where do I start? Please help me. I'm so lost, and I want to help, and I want her to be safe and ok.