Hello, I signed up for the groups but do not know how to get in the meeting. Anyone experience this?

Hello! I don't know where to turn. My wife suffers from dermatillomania, and I am NOT a good support. In fact, I am an enabler. I fall into the trap of believing that I am helping by letting her do it or even using tweezers. I have tried even keeping the tools under lock and key, but I always somehow convince myself that it's ok. That if she could get this "one thing" out, it will all be over and she'll heal up and everything will be ok. That just isn't realistic, and I want to be a better support and actually take action. When she's picking, I feel helpless and I can't seem to make myself do anything but panic and cry. Afterwords, every time, she tells me that I did nothing to help her and that I am making it worse. Bottom line is that she needs someone who can take action instead of panicking. What do I do? Where do I start? Please help me. I'm so lost, and I want to help, and I want her to be safe and ok.

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For the longest time my loved ones have compared my skin picking to self harm, and they act as if its something I could just stop so easily if I wanted to. Its so frustrating, especially because I have actual self-harm experiences and my skin picking is not that. Its been years but it feels like they haven't even tried to understand. I know they love me and it comes from worry for me, but its hard.

I just started this program, and its making me realize how much I actually need it. But its insane I will unconsciously start picking while I'm actively recording/recognizing an episode right before. When I manage to fully stop I feel like I'm suffocating or claustrophobic and I had no clue it was this bad for me.

Has anyone felt this way? And have you been able to make any progress?

Hi!
I don't see a way to search past posts, so I don't know if there's already a conversation with suggestions, but I'm looking for ways to heal picking scars. I feel the older I get, the faster I scar and the longer the scars last. Mainly redness and skin discoloration in those spots. What have you found that works or works best?

Thank you!!

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does anyone else have such a good day with not a lot of picking and then once you see progress or clearness you start picking again. this has been going on for some time now and now that it's summer i want to get passed this insecurity. any tips on how to stop this?

I just got these gloves to help with my automatic picking habits and wanted to recommend them to the group. Cute and useful! I call them my love gloves. :) https://a.co/d/01l5ySx3

Hi everyone! This is my first time posting. I just wanted to say hi to you all. I'm here because of severe skin picking.

I've been picking my ears for as long as I can remember. It has progressively gotten worse the older I get. I am constantly scratching and pick, trying my hardest to pull something out. I don't really get ear wax anymore. I give myself ear infections regularly. I spoken to mental health professionals about this but kinda feel it is dismissed. I have tinitus as a result of this. I feel so alone and embarrassed doing this. Can anyone relate?

Is it just me or does anybody else here find it satisfying to pull hairs out of your arms and/or legs? It's oddly satisfying seeing the hair come out and the folicule. This is what I do mainly for my picking and I was wondering if anyone had any tips to overcome it

Hey friends,

I am new to this group but wanted to see if anyone else struggles with picking keratosis pilaris bumps on your arms/legs.

I unfortunately had a 1 hour picking session primarily on my arms and am feeling so down about it. I'm scarred that the purple and red scars will never go away.

Has anyone had any experience with fading these type of marks on your skin?

i am very lucky to have a support group who will see me picking and let me know that i gotta stop. What tends to happen is my addictive picking brain will get mad at my lovely friends bc they are "stopping me" from picking. anyway

Hi,
My husband has been picking his skin on his face for 4 years now. It started because he had an autoimmune disease and it took the doctors over 6 months to diagnose it correctly. As a way to take matters into his own hands, he started picking at the skin on his face and now his autoimmune condition is under control but he will not stop picking. The worse part is he does not think he has a skin picking condition, he thinks he is picking to help with the autoimmune condition. We have seen multiple rheumotologists, done the most advanced testing and seen so many dermotologists who all say the same thing: He is under remission for his autoimmune condition and that this is a seperate skin picking condition now that he needs to seek counseling for. He refuses to listen to any of them. Claims the doctors don't know what they are talking about and continuously picks at his skin. He spends hours a day picking at his skin and then gets high because the sores on his face are so painful. We have not had a functioning marriage for 4 years now and I am feeling like my patience is coming to an end.
- Is there anything you all can suggest here?
- Is there anyone that is going through something similar who I can connect him with so that he can at least start to understand that he has a skin picking condition and this is not his autoimmue disease?

Thank you so much

I need some advice on what i should do instead of pop my whiteheads on my face. I want to so badly but I know I shouldn't. Does the urge pass? It's not going away

I've been struggling with acne a face picking for over 15 years and finally, at 36, I'm starting to try and face it head on. Picking has fueled years of depression and isolation and expensive skin care/treatments! I'm about to get engaged and my skin picking is taking a toll on my partner now too because I often don't want to leave the house because of my skin. Has anyone found ways their partners can feel supportive without feeling like they need to be the "picking police"?

I'm a 69 female and have been picking the skin under my toes since I was 9. In 8th grade it progressed to my fingers. That started because my Mom would get mad at me for chewing my nails. So I grew my nails and chewed my cuticles. Starting in the 7 lth grade it progressed to picking my legs.. We lived in Miami and I would wear knee socks to cover my sores. My Mom never noticed or asked me why. I also started pulling out my haid. This continued through high school. All of this. In College I had stopped picking my legs but I started picking my heels. Talk about pain.It was awful. During my 20s the hair pulling and feet picking continued. In my 30s and 40s the hair pulling continued along with picking my scalp. To the point my hair was red from blood. Also. I continued picking my fingers and toes. Today at 69, I have stopped everything but picking my fingers and toes. I can't always wear sandals because of the bleeding. I know this how I cope. It soothes me in a strange way but I wish I could stop. I guess I will die this way.

I found something to help! It's called Little Ouchies, you can find them on Amazon or on their website if you look up their name. They are fidgets that are a bit spiky to help with dermatillomania and/or Trichotillomania, or just neurodivergent minds! :)

I have this vicious circle I've recently fallen into. I break out badly. The acne is red and painful, so I put concealer on it. Then at some point picking it seems less painful and unpleasant than having it on my face. So I do. Then it becomes inflamed and more red. Then I put concealer on it. Then I break out again from I'm assuming the concealer.

What do I do? I feel pretty helpless here. My self esteem is pretty low without concealer. Everyone I know seems to have literally the most flawless skin ever and no matter what I always notice it.

Any input is valued!

Hi everyone, so glad to find this community. Does anyone have treatments or advice to stop picking at their acne? I have had skin excoriation disorder forever and acne as well. It is so rough. Please let me know if there's anything I can do. Thanks!